Saturday, August 1, 2009


I wish I always had the right words to say. Or that I had the time to say them the very moment they crossed my mind.

On both accounts, I don't. Not always at least.

I sit here, with a movie playing on the tv that probably shouldn't be since we have a very impressionable 2 1/2 year old son. I think I may have broke Lily's car seat while trying to take the cover off to wash it. Good thing we have 3 other's in the house (don't ask). The house is a mess, as usual, even with the hubby's incessent helping that he does. The laundry is never done. The toilets are never clean. I rarely shower 2 days in a row.

But today, I went grocery shopping with my son. Just me and him. And even though while we were there, he often said "That's mine!" to MANY things, unless of course he found a way to yank it off the shelf with his own two hands.

But today, I didn't mind. I was just grateful and joyful for getting those moments with him, just the 2 of us.

Because now, with his little sister in the picture, we don't get special alone time much, if at all, any more. So I treasured it. I talked to him. I let him pick out whichever toilet paper he wanted even if he doesn't use it himself. I even got him a pack of M&M's in the checkout line.

My way of saying "Thanks for being such a great kid. And thank's for loving me for me, even when things get a little crappy. Thanks for listening. Thanks for being who you are. Because I wouldn't change a single thing about you. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever."

We walked out of the store, got in the car, and even stopped to rent a DVD just for him.

It was our special time, doing nothing special at all.


Lauren said...

I remember thinking the same thing after my second was born. A simple trip alone with mom does them good and mom too. It really doesn't matter where you go, just as long as they feel special getting to go by themselves and get your undivided attention. I very rarely take both of mine grocery shopping, usually only one. Plus if only one goes, there is room in cart for groceries:)

moosh in indy. said...

my little kid is my best friend. even though i consider leaving her at the side of the road occasionally.

Complicated Mama said...

I was just thinking the same about my little boy and how we never get alone time anymore since princess was born almost a year ago(--- really??)

I need to make a day for just the 2 of us... leaving princess at home.

Rosana V. said...

i remember actually breaking down and crying about a month after my second was born. my husband was like, "dude, what's wrong?"

"I miss my baby!" i wailed. what was a talking about? my first baby. the reality that it was no longer going to be mommy and marley hit me like a ton of bricks (and the mind-boggling sleep deprivation that comes with newborn territory didn't help either).

we now have "mommy-marley days," though, and i cherish them -- in part because i get alone time with my first child and also because i can't friggin' believe how easy i had it with one! ;-)

Corinne said...

I do the same thing with my 2 1/2 year old :) I have him, as well as my one year old daughter, and often feel like he gets slighted a little without as much mommy time as he used to have. It's so tough, but so worth it in the end.