tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post9044168910586476905..comments2023-09-30T08:00:59.484-05:00Comments on Mommy Instincts: 5 Days In....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15922001883927773996noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-77881260098302876762009-03-28T17:54:00.000-05:002009-03-28T17:54:00.000-05:00i don't have children of my own, so i have no idea...i don't have children of my own, so i have no idea, but can imagine the attachment that is created with each child is completely different. <BR/><BR/>i think the fact that you were able to be so honest with yourself and so candid on your blog shows incredible strength. <BR/><BR/>i really appreciate yours and other mommy blogs bc i love children and look forward to having my own someday and need all the advice / help i can get! <BR/><BR/>i am a big advocate of talk therapy, so if you're still struggling, you might feel better talking to someone. i know this is a late response and i hope you are feeling well :)nikkolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208408105819243294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-83179248023034050542009-03-24T10:14:00.000-05:002009-03-24T10:14:00.000-05:00I just happened on your blog. I want to say that ...I just happened on your blog. I want to say that you are SO NORMAL.<BR/><BR/>I have 3 sons. When the first was born it was all fireworks and awe. I felt instantly, madly, deeply in love w/ him. At least it felt that way.<BR/><BR/>Then my second came and I felt...nothing. For a year I worried that I'd never love him like I loved my first. I beat myself up constantly for being such an inadequate mother. It was a hard year. I didn't get much of a break after having my baby, I had PPD, I was overwhelmed and I had mastitis twice. <BR/><BR/>Eventually I came out of the fog enough to look around and seek out other mothers' experiences. Know what I found? THIS IS REALLY NORMAL. Many moms feel this way about their second kids. I had forgotten that falling in love is a process. It isn't instant. Plus, adding a 2nd kid is hard work and it's easy to get overwhelmed. I agree with the PP that the transition from 1-2 was the hardest one. <BR/><BR/>Give yourself a break. Love yourself. Know that you are normal and it'll be OK. Hang in there!<BR/><BR/>Nicole/feedingtimeatthezoo/NicoleLJ on TwitterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-752634541688922752009-03-14T14:24:00.000-05:002009-03-14T14:24:00.000-05:00I missed this post, hope you don't mind the late r...I missed this post, hope you don't mind the late reply; you are SO not alone. I know of the resentment you felt in the beginning; I still beat myself up bout it now, and I dread when this next one comes because I'm pretty sure depression will hit me full force.<BR/><BR/>But one thing I remember is to NOT do it alone. It's hard to ask for help and support, and you've taken a huge leap of faith posting it in your blog. Talk to your OB, talk to friends, family, anyone, we're all here for you.<BR/><BR/>And before I forget, it already sounds to me like you're doing a great job, you're a big incentive to me. ;o)<BR/>xx@cosmicgirliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16121996821343321297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-28221885909310031182009-03-11T03:08:00.000-05:002009-03-11T03:08:00.000-05:00I'm pregnant with my second although I somehow kno...I'm pregnant with my second although I somehow know how you feel. It is so different, everything's going to change..BIG HUGS though! If you ever need anything just ask!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11870698797897457904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-78070044131883477692009-03-10T11:51:00.000-05:002009-03-10T11:51:00.000-05:00Hugs to you!These are the things that no one reall...Hugs to you!<BR/><BR/>These are the things that no one really speaks about...but it happens and I applaud you for your honesty.<BR/><BR/>I remember how TOTALLY overwhlemed I was when I had my second child. I mean TOTALLY. I was OUTNUMBERED! And I remember how scary and frightening it was. I remember at one point sitting in the bathroom just sobbing! I remember doing what I needed to do just to get through the day and feeling like I was a robot on auto-pilot.<BR/><BR/>I am now expecting my 6th child, but I have to tell you, the transition from a 1 child to a 2 child family was by far the most difficult transition for me to make. It was also hard to rationalize--ok...now I have 2 kids to love. How do I do this? How do I give my first all she needs and also give to the second? It was mind boggling.<BR/><BR/>I think another thing that most mom's don't talk about is that sometimes...sometimes...you DON'T feel that immediate "love" thing with a child. My friend confided this to me after the birth of her first and only child. She was worried there was something wrong with her. There wasn't. <BR/><BR/>Hugs to you....and take care of yourself. I agree with Mom23Boys...consider talking with your OB. <BR/><BR/>Please keep us updated and let us know how you are doing.vamommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11152858400601532443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-30080769079028101542009-03-09T16:14:00.000-05:002009-03-09T16:14:00.000-05:00I would love to give you a hug right now. I had de...I would love to give you a hug right now. I had depression after my third daughter. It was rough and my doctor told me to lose weight and I would feel better. Like baby weight had anything to do with how I was feeling. You are wise to talk it out. Find a doctor to help you. It may go away on its own but you may need help. <BR/><BR/>Anyway I will pray for you. You will be okay you just have to find your way through the fog.Together We Savehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17294423259234525733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-89003897825035581632009-03-08T18:41:00.000-05:002009-03-08T18:41:00.000-05:00I wish I was there to help! No matter what, rememb...I wish I was there to help! No matter what, remember that you can't help the way you feel and your feelings aren't wrong. I really admire your honesty and know it will help others who are going through the same thing. Hang in there! SusanZussershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12887616463652726497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-57109960127067273872009-03-08T14:20:00.000-05:002009-03-08T14:20:00.000-05:00Hormones are a crazy thing, especially after deliv...Hormones are a crazy thing, especially after delivering a baby. Give yourself some time. I really commend you for speaking up about your true emotions, which I believe is the first step to overcoming any hurdle. Your confidence will increase with each day as will the love in your heart. Hugs to you Jen!Lynette3boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02343857414927685529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-38501652366584328222009-03-07T19:31:00.000-06:002009-03-07T19:31:00.000-06:00Maybe some of this is just the baby blues. I felt...Maybe some of this is just the baby blues. I felt the worst about things about a week after the baby arrived with all 3 of my kids. With two of mine, the baby blues turned into full fledged post partum depression. I can totally relate to everything you are feeling.<BR/><BR/>The best thing I ever did with my third child was talk to my OB about how I was feeling, and how hard everything was. She totally helped me out. I should have talked to her with my first two, and things would have been SO much better. <BR/><BR/>Have you thought of talking with your doctor?<BR/><BR/>I hope things get better for you!!!Mom23Boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16467610535447956609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3165446665170354678.post-37687672842491177832009-03-07T18:11:00.000-06:002009-03-07T18:11:00.000-06:00((HUGS)) So sorry to hear what you've been going t...((HUGS)) So sorry to hear what you've been going through. It's tough being a mama. I have no doubt that your feelings will pass and you'll feel like yourself again in no time. I hope you get through this tough time with the love and support of your friends and family. Sending positive vibes your way! =) Take Good Care.La Mama Naturale'https://www.blogger.com/profile/03289254312222089081noreply@blogger.com